Ride the Road to Recovery: Men and Depression
Updated: Nov 20, 2022
Article by Emily Bosman (Intern) and Dean Harrison (Principal Counselling Psychologist)
"It affects the way you think. It affects the way you feel. It affects the way you love... It's just a blanket that covers everything... and it's one that's just so asphyxiating. And at times you just say it's enough already. It just feels like enough."
You might be familiar with some of the more well known symptoms of depression, such as feeling sad or empty, being tired or sleeping more than usual, not being able to fall asleep at night, losing interest in things you previously found enjoyable, withdrawing from friends and family, and significant weight loss or gain. Did you know, however, depression can affect men and women differently? Men often experience symptoms of depression that can make the condition harder to recognise.
While we’ve come a long way in terms of gender equality, men still tend to be more reluctant than women to seek help and talk about their feelings. This could partly explain why men suffering from depression often complain of physical symptoms, such as aches and pains, digestive issues, and headaches, instead of a low mood. Rather than feeling sad or tearful, men experiencing depression are often irritable, angry, and hostile. Men are also more likely than women to exhibit:
Risky behaviours, such as reckless driving, unsafe sex, or gambling,
Escapist behaviour, such as spending more time than usual at work, watching television, or playing video games,
Problems with alcohol or drug use, and
Controlling, violent and abusive behaviour.
There is no single cause of depression, though there are some risk factors for men. These include:
Social isolation and lack of social support,
Relationship problems, including separation and divorce,
Issues at work, or dissatisfaction with career progression,
Becoming a new father, parenting or parental alienation,
Sexual health issues, including transgressions or being gay, bisexual or trans,
Physical health problems, and
Substance use including drugs, alcohol and tobacco.
Depression can have a negative impact on relationships. People experiencing depression often experience a lack of energy and motivation. This can make it difficult to function, interact with others and meet expectations. Depression can result in a lack of desire for sex, which can put further strain on a romantic relationship. Additionally, depressed men might become withdrawn, closed off, apathetic or short-tempered. This can be difficult and sometimes hurtful to other people in their lives. If depression is not identified, or understood, this behaviour can often be incredibly confusing and worrying - for both the depressed person and their loved ones. Unfortunately, men often tend to avoid seeking help until their depression has become severe. By this time, it may have already negatively impacted on their career, relationships and lifestyle. For instance, they might experience other problems, like substance use.
Understanding changes in your mood and behaviour, or your loved one, is the first step in learning how to process and address these feelings and mood state. Thankfully, depression is a treatable condition, and in most cases, psychological therapy is sufficient to regain improved mood and quality of life. If you or your loved one might be suffering from depression, talk to your local doctor or psychologist. The sooner you reach out for help, the sooner you begin on the road to recovery.
If you, or someone you know, is experiencing difficulty with depression, support is available. If you need further assistance please contact iflow psychology or book an appointment. You can book an appointments online, or by calling my friendly admin staff on 02 6061 1144.
iflow psychology offers in-person (face-to-face), telehealth and telephone counselling. We are registered psychologists. We also offer Medicare Rebates when you have a doctors referral and Mental Health Plan. We would love to be part of your journey to a healthier lifestyle.
Location Details: iflow psychology is located in Leichhardt Inner West Sydney NSW Australia
Disclaimer: The information provided in this article are suggestions only. It is always advisable to speak with your treating doctor and health professionals before making changes. This is particularly important if you have health concerns or have existing medical conditions.
(c) 2021 Dean Harrison
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